Can you say NO confidently?
Mentally strong individuals are aware that saying NO is actually healthy, thereby protecting their self-esteem.
When you are an entrepreneur or hold a senior position in a company, you need emotional and mental balance to be successful.
All of us go through hardships, face rejection, get stuck in boring jobs and face personal hurdles in life. Such situations test your emotional well-being and your true strength lies in successfully cruising through them.
So, if you are feeling a bit low and are in search of motivation, observe how mentally strong people handle challenges in their own lives.
Here are a few things they do on a regular basis which keep them sane and strong:
1. They welcome change
Mentally tough people don't hesitate to embrace change.
They welcome it with positivity and optimism. The worst thing that can happen to you is not having any change.
Many times, change can be an opportunity to step up in life.
When you are doing the same thing over and over again, the results won't be any different. You should be willing to adapt to change with an open mind.
2. They say NO with confidence
When a senior at work asks you something, it is easier to say Yes than to say No.
Saying yes seems more positive, pleasing and spontaneous. But research conducted by the University of California suggests that people who find it difficult to say no experience burnout, stress and, sometimes, depression.
On the other hand, mentally strong individuals are aware that saying no is actually healthy, thereby protecting their self-esteem.
All you need to be is polite, yet stern.
If you say things like 'I'm not certain' or 'I don't think I can do this,' it only makes it very ambiguous. Rather, say no with confidence and experience a sense of liberation.
3. They don't overthink
Mentally strong individuals don't over-analyse every situation, trying to find a meaning behind it.
They do not feel the need to control every little thing.
They don't complain, worry or keep wishing for things that are too difficult to achieve.
It is only a waste of energy. Instead, when you invest in things you can control, you will feel prepared for what life throws at you.
For example, if an employee or co-worker is behaving in a certain way, don't fret about things that made them so. Instead, focus on your productivity or project and try to do a good job.
4. They focus on themselves
Warren Buffet said, 'The best investment you can make is in yourself.'
There are so many reports and articles which suggest that good nourishment through food and exercises like yoga or running are what successful people follow religiously.
These lifestyle habits can reduce stress, improve memory, clear up vision and improve your cognitive abilities.
You can also see that their self-confidence is much higher; so are their social skills, confidence and attention span.
5. They are not envious
When mentally strong individuals hear about a friend's promotion or a family member's achievement, they know that these don't define their own lives or their achievements.
They don't compare themselves with anyone and they are sporting about criticism.
Like personal habits, mental well-being can also be cultivated by relentlessly practising it. And, before you know it, people will start looking up to you.
10 Powerful Ways to Remove the Negativity From Your Life
10 Powerful Ways to Remove the Negativity From Your Life
We’ve
all experienced negativity in our lives at one point or another. We
talk to that one friend or family member that always manages to make us
feel down, even though we were in a great mood beforehand. We’ve had
that feeling of dread when we have to go somewhere negative people are
(maybe work or to a relative’s house).
The good news is that you don’t have to allow
negativity to rule your life! You can take the reins and find ways to
help eliminate negativity in your life. Check out our 10 favorite,
powerful ways that you can begin abolishing negativity from your life
TODAY!
Minimize All Toxic Relationships – If
you have someone in your life who makes you feel bad about yourself,
what you like, what you do, and what you aspire to do (and we all have
at least one person who does this), that person has a toxic relationship
with you. The best strategy is to remove this person altogether from
your life, but if you find that you can’t, then simply minimize your
time around that person and spend time nurturing healthier and happier
relationships instead.
Think Positive Thoughts – After
removing the negative people in your life, you should focus on removing
the negativity that lurks in your mind. Remember that you are the master
of your own destiny. Follow the Law of Attraction and eliminate those
pesky, negative thoughts right away. Whenever you allow yourself to
think negative things, more negative things will happen to you. Instead,
allow positive thoughts to flood your mind, and you’ll find that more
and more positive things will enter into your life. It’s that simple!
Surround Yourself With Positive People – It’s
not enough to simply think positive thoughts. You must find others who
have positive outlooks on life and are energetic and support what you
do. These people should make you feel more empowered and give you
confidence in all your endeavors. You’ll find that life becomes much
brighter when you have positive people surrounding you.
Channel Positivity In Your Body and Force Negativity Out – Physical
activity is something that we as a people in general take for granted
or see as a punishment. Meditation – be it yoga, deep breathing, alone
time, or time spent in prayer – can help us relax and clear our minds,
bringing in new energy and positive vibes. On the other hand, working
out can help us burn off the anxiety, anger, and negativity that
continue to plague us. The next time you feel negativity trying to pull
you down, go for a run, walk, or bike ride, play tennis, swim – do SOME
physical activity to help diminish the negativity.
Do What You Love, Love what You Do (and Where You Do It) – Sometimes
we may not have much of a choice in this area, especially in today’s
economy; however, working in a poisonous environment full of negative
people can really wear us down quickly. Furthermore, it’s imperative to
do the things that you thoroughly enjoy in life. Doing activities that
you love will help you feel more positive and zealous about life. If you
find that you’re not enjoying your work or if your workplace has become
too toxic, we encourage you to seek a new job, whether it’s within a
different department in your company or with a different company
altogether.
Don’t Worry About What People Might Say – Have
you ever found yourself wanting to accomplish a certain goal but hold
off doing it because you fear others could think poorly about you? Maybe
you want to publish a novel or you want to visit a different country,
but you find yourself paralyzed because you think, “What would my
mother/sister/best friend, etc. think?” Just remember, it’s YOUR life,
not theirs! You must keep in mind that it’s impossible to please
everyone and that YOUR happiness is what truly matters. So if you want
to publish that novel, go for it! Don’t let the naysayers slow you down.
Stop That Complaining – Everyone
complains every now and then about work, about friends and loved ones,
or about life in general. It’s human to do so. But keep in mind that
complaining puts us in a place to continue making excuses and being
negative. Stop immediately the next time you begin complaining. Think of
how to fix your problems, and remember to always be grateful for what
you have in your life. You’re more fortunate than many others.
Take “What If?” Out of Your Vocabulary – Anxieties
are part of our lives, but that doesn’t mean you should let them rule
yours! Fears can impair our ability to move forward or accomplish the
goals we set for ourselves. One of the easiest ways anxiety and
negativity can latch onto us is when we ask ourselves, “What if?” You
may ask yourself, “What if I get sick during the meeting? What if our
plane to Japan goes down? What if I mess up in front of everyone and
look like a fool?” Here’s a new strategy for you – every time you start
thinking “what if?”, think “So what?” instead. Don’t let negativity and
anxieties hold you back from your goals and passions!
Love Where You Live – Have you
ever longed to live somewhere else, somewhere inspirational that fills
you up with positive energy? Do you currently live in a negative
community that you dread to go home to every night after work? Not
everyone may be able to do this, but if you can, try to move to that
place that will help you stay positive. Do remember, though, that every
place has its pros and cons.
Give Back – What’s better than
giving back? Nothing, that’s what! Give back to your community. Do some
charity work, or volunteer at your church or in the local animal
shelter. You’ll find that giving of yourself helps you become a happier,
more positive person!
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Wake Up Parents
This has reeeally impressed me👌🏾
*WAKE UP PARENTS*❗
Years back, *poor illiterate parents* produced
🔹Doctors,
🔹Engineers,
🔹 Scientists,
🔹 Accountants,
🔹 Lawyers,
🔹 Architects,
🔹 Professors.., whom I will refer to as *Group 'A'*.
These *Group 'A'* Children struggled on their own after Primary 6 or Grade 12, to become notable personalities. Most of them
👉🏾trekked to school *barefooted*
👉🏾 went to farms
👉🏾fetched water and firewood
👉🏾cared for domesticated animals
👉🏾did some work including trading after school to survive.
Now Group 'A' ,who have now become Parents themselves are *producing Group 'B' Children*
These group B children are
🔹pampered
🔹 helped in their homeworks or home assignments from nursery school through secondary schools to higher institutions.
🔹chauffeur driven to very expensive schools or are sent abroad to study.
🔹they can watch movies from morning till dawn after school.
🔹 they are treated like baby kings and queens.
🔹they don't do any household chores.
🔹Food is put on the table for them,
🔹their plates are removed and washed by parents or house maids.
🔹They are given expensive cars and clothes,
🔹not forgetting *big pocket monies to be wasted* !!!.
🔹Their parents help them in doing their assignments.
🤔 In spite of all these, only few can *speak* or *write* correctly. 😏
🤔Group 'A' Parents cared for their own *parents* and *children*, Group 'B',their Children are still *struggling to find their feet at age 30+*.‼
🤔They find it difficult to do things on their own because they are used to being helped to think and doing things by Group 'A'. So they can't help themselves, their parents or the society. THEY ABANDON THEIR PARENTS IN THEIR BID TO ACQUIRE THE WORLD
😴 *Where do you belong*❓
🏮Reduce the pampering and the unnecessary help you offer your children.
🏮 Let your children *grow in wisdom, intelligence and strength*.
🏮Let them face the truth and the realities of life. Teach them to grow to become *independent adults.* Teach them to
👉🏾fear God,
👉🏾respect others and
👉🏾 develop confidence in themselves.
🤔Parents, discipline your children to become disciplined adults, *useful* and not *useless.*